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Breaking the Silence: Why Expressing Desire Changes Everything
Research shows we bury our deepest desires — and voicing them changes everything. Discover how breaking the silence can reshape not just our…
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Rethinking Trauma and Love: How Conscious Relationship Design Can Help Us Heal
We’ve been told to fix ourselves before love — but emerging research shows healing happens in connection.
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Designing Power: Influence, Control and Choice in Conscious Relationships
Power shapes every relationship — whether we see it or not. What happens when we bring it into the light and design for it intentionally?
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When Theology Meets Modern Love: The Final Letter - On Finding Common Ground
Letter 5 of a series exploring conscious relationship design through the lens of faith and ethics
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When Theology Meets Modern Love: Letter 4 - On Consent, Self-Interest and Moral Responsibility
Letter 4 of a series exploring conscious relationship design through the lens of faith and ethics
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Messy is enough, you do not have to be good, and whispers
This month in Hit Pause, Then Play, I explore what we can bring to 2025, file a complaint with the Dept of Personal Growth, and reveal what unfolds in a…
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On doing a TEDx talk, caretakers of language, and speaking anonymously
This month in Hit Pause, Then Play, I share what it was like doing a TEDx talk, bridging divides with people we may disagree with, and speaking our…
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When Theology Meets Modern Love: Letter 3 - On Vulnerability and Ethics in Relationship Design
Letter 3 of a series exploring conscious relationship design through the lens of faith and ethics
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When Theology Meets Modern Love: Letter 2 - On Ethics and Human Nature
Letter 2 of a series exploring conscious relationship design through the lens of faith and ethics
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When Theology Meets Modern Love: Letters on Conscious Relationship Design
Letter 1 of a series exploring conscious relationship design through the lens of faith and ethics
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Breaking the Mold: Society’s Taboos and the Reality of Polyamory
The seventh in a series on Designing Love: Exploring Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy
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A Thousand Small Cuts: How Conscious Relationship Design Can Revitalise Long-term Relationships
Frustrated wives, checked-out husbands: A different approach to breaking destructive relationship cycles
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